Lately I've been feeling a little bit differently about where I want to steer the vessel that is my life. Sometimes it's really confusing to make the right decision, because how do you know if it's the right decision or not?
So I was editing this show for Link TV and one of the guests, a very wise man named Azim Khamisa, said that it's important to make decisions using your mind-heart-soul connection. The way to do that is by asking yourself these three questions:
1) Does it make sense? [mind]
2) Does it feel good? [heart]
3) Does it inspire you? [soul]
I still can't tell you that if this thought process makes decision-making easier, but it helps clarify certain things. What I'm not sure about is that if you answer "no" to one of the questions, does that mean you shouldn't do it, or should you simply be aware that it doesn't make sense, doesn't feel good or doesn't inspire you? Perhaps the notion that "two out of three ain't bad" applies here.
What I'm getting at here is one of my favorite themes: love, and more specifically, how to fall into it. At one point I asked my two or three readers the question of when does one break the deal, or cut the cord, so to speak. Now I'm faced with a different question: when do you finally allow someone in? Does that person have to a) make sense, b) feel good and c) inspire you all at once in order for you to consider letting someone into your heart in the first place? Or if they meet at least two out of three criteria, can you see if the third criterion will eventually come around?
Lord knows if I had asked myself these three questions sooner in life, I may not have gotten myself into a number of messy situations that I so willingly leapt into at the time. But then, the Existentialist in me keeps telling me, you only live once! And the Virgo keeps asking, at what cost?
I used to have another set of criteria in determining a mate, which I haven't totally abandoned, and since I am on the subject, here they are. I've always thought that a winning combination for two individuals to come together and stay together, you need to have:
1) a physical connection
2) an emotional connection
3) an intellectual connection
Is it too much to ask for three out of three? Or must we accept two and one day hope the third will grow or emerge or come around?
If any of my two or three readers has some other key to the mysterious and enigmatic winning combination, and where and how to find it, any and all suggestions will be greatly appreciated.